I get questions and statements like this all the time:
How do you do it all?
You must have your hands full.
How do you keep your sanity?
I could never do what you do!
Can I just let you in on a little secret? I’m not superwoman. I’m just not. And I have certainly never felt like I have superpowers. I don’t do it all. I do have my hands full. Sometimes, I do feel like I’m going insane. And you know what? You’re not supposed to be able to do what I do. You’re supposed to be able to do what you have been called to.
As moms, while our families, responsibilities, and stages of life might look different, our lives are very similar at the root. We all want to love our families well. We all have a lot of responsibilities–from repairing the air conditioner to sculpting the personalities of our beloved children. We want to fulfill our calling in life. But, it’s difficult to make it all happen. Here are some tips I have learned in my years as a mompreneur.
Because I learned the hard way that I can never do it all, I have learned to prioritize my responsibilities and commitments. My family always comes first. After my family come my customers and my business. In my remaining time come friends and community involvement.
This might sound overwhelming and like it will take away your freedom, but believe me, it is so worth the learning curve and will give you all the freedom in the world. Begin by establishing a bedtime and morning routine for yourself and your children. Once you have this routine established, add things to your daily schedule like laundry, cleaning, and other tasks. It helps tremendously to plan your week on Saturday or Sunday. By doing this, you know what to expect for the week, you are prepared, and you don’t feel like you’ve been hit by a truck when Monday morning rolls around. Of course, your schedule will change over time as you and your family go through different stages of life, and that is completely fine. You will learn to adjust your schedule accordingly.
- Learn to Say ‘No’
Sometimes, you just have to say ‘no.’ Once you know your priorities and what your schedule looks like from day to day, you know what your schedule can handle. As difficult as it may be, you have to be willing to say ‘no’ to activities that will overwhelm your schedule. This will keep you from feeling completely overwhelmed by life. If you find that are having to say ‘no’ to things that you really want to say ‘yes’ to, go back, reevaluate your priorities, and if it is a priority for you and/or your family, make it work with your schedule. Saying yes to something new might mean saying no to something else, but this concept is key to saving your sanity.
- Give Yourself Grace
If you’re like me (and I’m guessing you are since you’re human too), you will fail at this process from time to time. That’s totally fine! This isn’t a recipe for no more hard days. It’s a list of tips for making life manageable and more enjoyable. Give yourself grace for the hard days. Schedule in some extra time to catch up on rest or on those things you didn’t get done throughout the week. Life is unpredictable, so have grace for yourself on those days and learn to embrace the both the predictable and the unpredictable.
You don’t have to do it all. Just decide what’s most important and make sure that gets accomplished. Say ‘yes’ to the most important things and ‘no’ to the unnecessary.